If we want joy in your life, we have to learn how to forget about the hurts and offenses from our past.
There's no room for them both.
If we focus on the hurts from our past, we won't have as much capacity to enjoy the moment we are currently living in, which punishes us, and the people around us.
It might take a bit of getting used to, but learning to forgive and forget could be one of the best habits we could ever practice.
You have to learn to forgive & forget if you want joy in your life.